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So I don’t have a degree does it really matter.

Published August 29, 2012 by crayolasandcombatboots

Ok, here goes a rant.

No, I don’t have a fancy degree and all that I am is a stay at home Mom. A degree doesn’t help you when your kid is sick or you have to play referee when they are arguing. I am so tired of feeling undervalued as an individual because I don’t have a big fancy degree nor do I have the urge to get a degree to make society think I am valuable. My opinions are just as valuable as a person who has spent years getting a degree.

Will I ever be asked for my input about politics and really be taken seriously, absolutely NOT, And do you know why, because I have no fancy letters after my name

Will I ever be taken seriously even at my kid’s schools, absolutely NOT, and do you know why, Because I don’t”work” outside of the house.

I can come up with great business ideas but will a bank ever take me seriously and give me a loan for that business,absolutely NOT, because I have no degree that says that I know anything about business. However, I have run a household for the last 16 years, balanced a budget and made sure that my family is fed, clothed and still no respect from society.

I made a conscientious choice when I had my daughter 14 years ago that I would be a stay at home Mom but sometimes I feel like maybe society would have respected me more if I had put her in daycare at 6 weeks old so I could go to a job that would have just barely enough money to pay for the  daycare center or babysitter. Maybe all that I will ever be in society’s eyes will be as a second class citizen but when my kids have graduated High School, are going to college themselves and if either of my daughters ever want to be a stay at home Mom, maybe I will get the respect as somebody that has done good for society.

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Cosleeping

Published August 23, 2012 by crayolasandcombatboots

Yes I cosleep and I have coslept with all 3 of my kids. My oldest is 14 years old and my middle child is almost 13 and when they were babies I would lie to the Doctor and say that they slept in a crib. Nowadays it is more acceptable to cosleep. So when my youngest who is 3 was born I decided that I would not lie to the Doctor and I am so glad I  didn’t because she is a Mother of  3 that cosleeps herself. That is a big relief when you have your doctor on your side.

Alot of people say that cosleeping leads to dependence  on the parents however my oldest are prime examples of how teenagers will distance themselves from their parents just because they are teens. As a  matter of fact my teenage son is soooo independent that he feels that he doesn’t even have to give me hugs anymore.

Cosleeping is the only way that I

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The Politics of Rape(in light of Todd Akins)

Published August 21, 2012 by crayolasandcombatboots

Here goes the conversation about rape.

Todd Akins the politician from Missouri has recently brought the subject of rape into the headlines.

Plain and simple Rape is Rape.When a person say no it means no. I recently had a discussion with my husband regarding rape in the context of our daughters. With our oldest starting High School we got around to talking about clothes and what is appropriate. He made a comment that got me very hot saying that girls need to be careful what they wear because of the way that grown men will look at them.

When will we stop putting the actions of men on our daughters.

When will we as a society teach our boys that raping is not right. And  when will we as a society teach that our girls that their bodies are theirs and theirs alone. Our daughters should not be fearful to wear what they want.We work very hard to keep our daughters’ self esteem high and when they are told that they can’t wear certain things out of fear than that is wrong.

Rape is about power and not sexuality or sex.

A woman will get raped wearing a cocktail dress and also while wearing a business suit. WHAT SHE IS WEARING DOES NOT MATTER! A woman does not ask for it based on what she is wearing. If a woman feels good in her own skin then she should be able to wear anything she wants.Generations of women have been blamed for being raped based on what they were wearing.The old”she asked for it” does not fit at all.

My husband said that if something was to happen to our daughter as a result of what she was wearing then what would her part be in the rape.

Emphatically I will always say that WOMEN HAVE NO RESPONSIBILITY IN THEIR RAPE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! A woman NEVER asks to be raped.

It boils down to this, parents of boys teach them not to rape and that the world is not for them to take. Also, we have to teach our daughters that they alone say what happens to their body. When they say no they have a right to say no.

In other words, All rape is legitimate.

A little more about me

Published August 19, 2012 by crayolasandcombatboots

Today I am going to share a little of my story so people can begin to really know me.

I was born to a single alcoholic Mother and I am the oldest. My Mom was the oldest of 6 kids herself. When I was 3 years old I was put into the DCFS system(Childcare services). I proceeded to go through 6 different homes before I was adopted at the age of 6. I was adopted by a couple who had an older child of there own. The home was not a great place for me. I was constantly being emotionally abused by my Adopted Mother being called names and my self esteem has been through hell my whole life. I was told by her that I would never amount to anything and I would be a bad Mother.

 I was basically beat down by her with her words every day. To this day I struggle with my self esteem.

I was not allowed to have any friends, go to any sleepovers. I couldn’t watch too much TV and I had to be outside in the yard all day if it was above 32 degrees. She would take me to Psychiatrists and when things would start to get around to talking about her treatment of me she would pull me out of that Psychiatrist’s office and send me to another. I was not a bad kid because I was always afraid to do anything wrong. I never talked back at all.

I started running away in the 4th grade and ran off and on for almost 5 years. When I was in 9th grade and was 16 years old I told the police that I would only go back to that house if I had a court order to return.

Thankfully I never got that court order.

I spent the next 3 years going in and out of foster homes and in the process went to 5 different high schools. I never actually graduated but I did get my GED right away after I quit when I was 19 years old. This is when my Biological Mother died and I will end today’s Blog at that and tomorrow will share the after my Mom’s death life.

Politics(yes I am going there)

Published August 18, 2012 by crayolasandcombatboots

OK I am just going to come out and say that I am a SCREAMING Liberal.

I was raised in a family that did not talk about politics alot(Actually we never talked about anything)so my life experiences and personal passions have shaped my views. I will never back down from my beliefs and am teaching my kids the same.

I am very excited that in the 2016 Election for President my daughter will be voting for the first time.

I believe that everybody has a right to be married to the one that they love.Fifty years ago my marriage was considered illegal because it is an interracial marriage.As long as the two people are not related and love each other as consenting adults who’s business what genitals they have.

I believe that health care is a right and not a privilege. We have always been a low income family and when my husband was working we had to pay more for health insurance for our son because he has asthma, me because I have endometriosis which are both considered preexisting conditions.We made $50.00 a month more than would allow us to get on Medicaid  so Obamacare is a great thing.

I also believe that it is not government’s job to “create” jobs, however it is Governments job to keep the jobs that are already here in this country. If our own people are not working here then how are we going to have long lasting financial freedom from other countries.

I believe in woman’s rights. I am sooooooo pro choice. A woman’s body is her own and what she decides to do with it is her choice. It is a woman who has to decide to carry a child to term or not.Birth Control is not for a man to control when a pregnancy happens to the woman and not the man. The woman has to carry the baby and then give birth to the baby possibly causing harm to her body in the process.

Last of all, Religion has no place in politics.There is separation of church and state for a reason.

Why I believe in total self led Potty Training

Published August 17, 2012 by crayolasandcombatboots

Ok here we are discussing Potty Training or as I have done with all 3 of my kids self led potty going.

My Daughter,Harmonie is 3 years and almost 3 months old and this is our potty experiences. I have cloth diapered her since around 15 months old and have loved it(There will be future blogs on my CDing experience) She has been slowly potty learning for the last year. I will not push her as she will not be going to preschool until next year at 4 years old. She started showing interest in the potty at around 2.5 years old so we started potty training. I found some Gerber underwear at the thrift store(also future blogs about my love of second hand) so I cleaned them out of all they had at 25 cents each.She had a little setback as far as potty training at around almost 3 years old where she was holding her poop in and would only go about once a week. We had to go back to the beginning of potty training and start all over. I will sing the praises of Pomegranate juice as a pooper helper forever.
Well,she did 1 poopy on the potty and decided that she treally didn’t like it at all. She will do number 1 all day long but number 2 at this point she will ask for a diaper.I will not push her to go on the potty, I will not fight her.  My 2 oldest self potty learned as well and my son who is now almost 13 actually overnight potty trained himself when he came to me at 18 months old and asked for big boy underwear and has never had an accident in his life.
So here we are waiting for that day when Harmonie will decide that pooping on the potty is a great thing again.  I will not push it because I don’t want to cause longterm effects on her bowels do to holding and emotional effects as well. I refuse to potty train for a schools schedule. Potty learning is not a matter of smarts but a matter of biological function after all, she is smart. She can say her ABC’s, knows all her colors, can count from 1 to 10 in English and Spanish and can say her full name and her age, all things that you learn in Kindergarten.

Getting ready for Back to School

Published August 16, 2012 by crayolasandcombatboots

Yes, I am counting down the days till my 2 oldest go back to school! I love them but the bickering is terrible. I think they have a 5 minute tolerance point for each other. We went to registration yeasterday and picked up the schedules for both. They are both going to have busy days! My 7th grader is going to a new school building. They split up the Gifted program that he is in to make room for expansion in the program. New school building, but glad that the same friends.He is my social butterfly.
  My daughter is starting High School and her schedule will keep her bouncing back and forth across the school all day long. I am crossing my fingers that the adjustment to High School will be a smooth one. She picked up all her books and they are huge. Algebra,Physics and Literature. I am soo glad I don’t have to take those classes. I would fail at Are You Smarter than  5th Grader.
  Now comes the fun part of getting school supplies together. This weekend we will be going through the last years school supplies and the stuff I bought last year that was on sale like the penny filler paper. I know we have enough filler paper, glue sticks and notecards to last through High School for both of them.
 Next year it will be getting ready for all 3 kids since my youngest will be in preschool. It is going to be great and sad all at the same time.