This may be considered a rant but whatever, this is MY blog so I can say what I want on here.
So this is what happened…….
Yesterday my Aunt calls my Hubby to take her to do her once a month big errands which she does almost every month. She gets in the car and then says, “so I hear that your drinking” He’s been sober and clean for 14.5 years so this is a total shock to him! He’s like “Where did you hear that?”
She says” From J(I’m not gonna put the name here because I don’t want her to get offended or anything)”
Mind you J hasn’t talked to us or seen us in over a year so how the hell would she know anything. J is my other Aunt from my Mom’s side of the family and she lives 4 blocks away from us, doesn’t call, come over or anything. Miraculously she just KNOWS that my hubby has been drinking. This is ridiculous considering that she drinks, smokes herself. Also, I feel that this shows a total lack of respect for me, her niece, to be spreading lies about my husband. She never once called me or stopped by to see if it was true she just assumed wand started spreading vicious lies.
My family wonders why I don’t take my kids around them or come and visit by myself. This is why. My husband and I don’t fit in because we don’t drink, smoke or talk crap all day. We also don’t allow our kids to visit because of the negative influence. I know blood is blood but when you didn’t know that blood until you were 19 years old, with your own morals and values already instilled in you it is hard to change.
I don’t need the drama. I have enough drama with my 3 kids. Other people’s drama has no place in my life. I was told that you can’t choose family however I can choose because when I was little and being put up for adoption my biological family chose NOT to fight for me.
How many other people out there feel the same about their families?
I have a feeling I’m not the only one.
This is the story that had me spitting mad yesterday on the news.
The “expert” was calling parents that cosleep “negligent and abusive”. I take offense to that as a cosleeping parent. I have 3 kids that I have coslept with full time as infants and though toddler age. I am neither “neglectful” nor am I “abusive”. They had NO parents that cosleep as part of the story. I amount that to one sided journalism. They only told one side of the issue. The side that was negative. They acted as if all experts are against cosleeping. They must have never heard of Dr. Sears who is a world renowned Pediatrician and expert on Cosleeping.
This is HIS opinion on Cosleeping
I would take the advice and expertise of somebody that has children of his own and has coslept himself as a parent. If you ask me a Parent is a Real “expert”.
A link to safe cosleeping guidelines
Note that one of the guidelines warns against intoxicated individuals cosleeping. Those that “roll over” on their babies are more than likely intoxicated and therefore don’t have the awareness that they need to have in order to cosleep.
I can’t believe that an infant is supposed to spend 9 months in a nice warm nurturing environment and when born be forced to be alone in a cold crib on their backs and in a dark silent room. An infant needs their Mother’s touch and smell to survive and flourish.
Thank you for reading this and so this ends my rant!!
Trying to organize this house is CRAZY! I am in the process of organizing my house so it can go up for sale and it is maddening. I am going room by room and it seems like as soon as I have one room done the last room is in shambles. I think I see a trip to Dollar tree to pick up a whole bunch of totes and storage containers. I also foresee that the garbage man will be earning his paycheck at our house. Hopefully I will be able to post before and after pics where the after lasts more than a day.
We have started a new chapter in our lives homeschooling my 14-year-old Freshman in High School. This was a decision that was very hard however it had to be done.
First of all, she is slightly learning disabled where she doesn’t learn as fast as the other kids her age.
Second,her maturity level is a couple of years behind her peers. She does not feel the need to be “mature” like the rest of the kids at school. She actually had a girl tell her in Gym class that she needed to lose her virginity since after all she is in High School.
Third, the school itself sucks as far as learning and safety is concerned. The school year began on August 27th and since then they have had almost e weekly lockdown, contraband checks and food fights. The fire alarm is being pulled almost every day. How can a person learn in that kind of environment.
The straw that broke the camel’s back is when she had food thrown on her and the young man who threw it at her called her a Bitch and a whore after she had thrown it back at him. I was very scared for her because that the school has no metal detectors and checks and balances that make sure that a student has no weapons. He could have had a knife or a gun and could have hurt her with that kind of attitude.
The school never called me after it happened and I kept her home waiting for them to call me. My husband and I went to the school after 2 days to see what was going on since I had never received a call from the school. We were actually sitting in the Assistant Principal’s office talking about security of the students on Friday December 14th at 9:30 in the morning. I had no idea at that time that Sandy Hook even existed nor did I know what was happening as I sat in his office. That was the day and time we withdrew her from the Public school system. It was not till we got back home that we learned about Sandy Hook.
We are starting slow and learning what works for her but she is already a much happier girl. The stress is gone from her. Her face is clearing up and I am able to see my beautiful happy daughter. That is what makes it all worth it for me.
I will be updating curriculums that I have found that work for us and what we are doing creatively.